Dating is hard.
When you’re out in the real world and not in a concentrated population of like-minded people 24/7, finding genuine connections is an adventure in itself.
So, as a millennial, you likely do what most of us do best… break out the thumbs and start swiping. If this is you, that’s great! You do you; I’m not here to swipe shame.
Here’s my issue with this method: I’m a little lazy and a lot picky. There are certain qualities I’m looking for in a partner and while I enjoy that you like The Office and you have an adorable puppy, I can’t establish a relationship with that information.
When something is nurtured and grown through a device, it is far too easy to forget about it. Relationship building becomes just another notification in a long scroll of “breaking news” updates and Instagram likes.
I notice the sweet irony of writing this post on my phone, on a flight, complaining about needing my phone to establish connections with others, while simultaneously not connecting with other people, but bear with me.
You may feel like you’re searching for the impossible, but here’s five tips we can all keep in mind.
- Trust. You’re most likely not destined to be alone forever. Give it time and have faith. Just because you want a relationship, doesn’t mean you need one.
- Sit that phone down and go outside. I know I sound like your grandparent right now, but explore the world; do things you love and you’re likely to meet people who also love those things (shared interests ✓).
- Join groups. Whether it be church groups, local clubs/organizations or volunteer opportunities, you CAN meet new people without having to go to a bar alone.
- Let friends help. People that know you, likely know what you like. Hey, ya never know!
- Stay positive. This tip is similar to trust, but you can negatively trust in something (not recommended). Stay positive and just know that the wait will absolutely be worth it.
Who knows? This could be awful advice, but I’m going to try it out. Here’s to trusting in my plan and hoping for the best!